Dear Dads,

Don’t wait. Don’t wait until she tells you what to do. Don’t wait until the dishes are piled up. Don’t wait until the kids are so loud that you can’t think straight.

Don’t wait until she looks exhausted. Don’t wait until she’s angry cleaning or quiet yelling. Don’t wait until it’s past dinner time and kids haven’t eaten. Don’t wait until it’s after bath time. Don’t wait until she’s screaming like a lunatic.

She needs you now. She needed you from the moment she woke up, until the moment she went to bed. She needed you to step in the second you walked through that door. She needed you the most when she said, “No, I got it.”

She is tired. She is overwhelmed. She’s running this ship alone while you wait to be told what to do. She is hoping one day you don’t await her instructions, and you just do the thing that needs to be done.

Dear Dads, don’t wait until your wife asks for helpKids need to eat. Kids need to be bathed. Kids make a mess. Kids are loud. Kids get into mischief. Kids need help getting dressed. Kids have assignments, games, practices, and so much more.

Do the thing.

Don’t wait. By the time she asks for help, she’s already submerged in the rough sea of motherhood, gasping for air and hoping for a life ring to be tossed her way. So don’t wait.

Signed,
Tired mums everywhere

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